Mark Alexander

Thanks, Steven. I agree.

I think so it’s fine. Set the goal, but realize that there are multiple paths to the goal. Sometimes we have to invent paths that fit our consciousness, ones that no one else has thought of.

I don’t know if this will be helpful, but I created a video on goal setting and quitting smoking, which applies to all kinds of things. It follows the ideas that Steven has been advocating, so there’s probably nothing new here other than I bet this is a story you haven’t heard quite in this way. (These videos derived from work I did for many years…[Read more]

Thanks for your thoughtful comments, Amanda and RJ. I agree that reactive anger has a constructive purpose (the reptile brain version, as RJ notes). I am more wary of anger as a choice that is indulged in.

The first great work of narrative in western lit is Homer’s Iliad, which explicitly deals with the consequences of Achilles’ anger. The arc of…[Read more]

hmmm…it says there are two posts, but I see only one. I posted a correction:

3) Anger creates blind spots that filter out any evidence or argument that DElegitimizes the angers.

One correction: 3) Anger creates blind spots that filter out any evidence or argument that DElegitimizes the angers.